Life they say is all about learning, and Learning they say is an experience, and experience they say makes a man perfect. So if you are always learning and continue to keep learning, then you have to achieve a state where life becomes perfect. Is that Utopian state possible? Most of us consider that learning is only during our school and college days, and once we are out of that place, you would like to claim that you are learned, because you have a certificate.
Alvin Toffler’s famous quote, “The illiterates of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn” But how many of you are willing to first get into a state of unlearning, and then look at a state of relearning. Too complicated – for how can one be a student all your life.
Whatever we learn in School, College and as Academic courses are set courses – like a linear game – where you have a starting point and on completing a set of parameters move forward and out of the system like an assembly line product. But what we learn to adapt in real life is the knowledge coupled with temperament on the basis of dynamic situations we encounter. These in itself provide us with fresher set of learnings that we have to incorporate to emerge better, but we get into such situations with a “Been there, Done that” attitude (winner). Call it – complacency, over-confidence, and some times fall on our belly, or try coming out of the situation justifying your actions as right.
We refuse to unlearn or relearn and continue in that same state of `know all’, that you eventually join the big gang of losers. Needless to say, we are going to repeat the statement that Learning is continuous, but the form it comes to you is different. Academic setting dictated Lectures, and workshops, but life may not be so.
Learning comes disguised in many forms – it is for you to recognize the form and realize the methods of imbibing those learning and apply them. There are innumerable examples of enterprising business men, who dropped out of school or had poor grades, but excel in their business. They are considered as practical and pragmatic. Those successful in academic days (toppers) tend struggle in real life, for their approach is seen as bookish and hence away from reality.
The emphasis is on being a learner, be it at any stage of life – for the pursuit of knowledge and experience leads you to pragmatism, out compromised Utopian Life , instead of perfect Life. Everyone desires a better quality of life, less pressure, more sense of self-worth.
When we are going through a period of transition, which we all are most of the time, those who are at the forefront are those who are using their learning capability. You have the capabilities. They are inherent in human nature. It’s time to get on with changing our world so that everyone can enjoy their time at work, and free themselves up to have enough energy and time to enjoy the rest of their lives “learning” as well.
Losers – stop day dreaming, and get on with life, for you too are going to be a winner. As for the winners, welcome to the world of Losers – for your complacency and over confidence will get you there and then together we can day dream of achieving UTOPIA!
Friday, December 3, 2010
Wednesday, December 1, 2010
Why Chronicles? Why Loser? Why Chronicles of a Loser!
This post comes after a near 100 days break on the blog, or facebook or twitter. This break made me introspect as to what was it that I had set out to do and what was I really doing, was it in keeping with the direction that I was seeking or was I getting lost in the wilderness of not being able to communicate anything. So I basically decided to revisit the title and perhaps dissect it by the meaningful words. (THIS PARA IS NOT A PART OF THE BOOK)
Chronicles is a word that one tends to associate to perhaps movies or publications (newspapers) that try to present to you the evolution of an individual or a subject, event or just developments and analysis of the same. The objective of Chronicles in our title is also the same, where we are trying to arrive at a proposition that we develop a fear psychosis of being a loser and try to pose winners all our lives.
Loser is basically a perennial state in which we all exist, where we are trying to come out of a maze that we get ourselves into naturally, or by design, and are trying to fight our way out of it. Some succeed, some don’t, and hence the classification of winners and losers. Those who succeed start living in Ivory Tower, and start condescendingly looking down upon people who are down (losers), while those (losers) who are aspiring to reach the Ivory Tower, have an aspiration and are working hard towards achieving something. They are not plagued by complacency and adapt faster, rather than adopt a status.
This process of classification continues, and those who reach the Ivory Tower are select few, but there are many amongst those in the ground who start prophesying the demerits of the Ivory Tower, and how they are happy to be where they are.
As Children, we are protected, incubated, given happiness, made to feel winners all the time, so that we develop an illusion of life – Losers! As a Teenager, you want to break free of everything, but it is now that most of the shackles come in terms of disciplining, controlling – all in the name of shaping and guiding, but turning that person into a bigger rebel – Loser. The rebel matures to be an adult, and has many aspirations – but some get caught in the parental pressure of following the tradition, while a select few break free. Some succeed and get complacent and fall again, while those who did not succeed blame life – Losers.
Many aver that Marital Life is a gamble, and how that shapes up is itself a challenge, and again some succeed, while some feel they committed the gravest mistake of their life. Yet one can just pause and crib, as life goes on. Parenthood is another challenge, and some cope up with it, while some just journey through it like a responsibility. As one ages and decides to hang up one’s shoes, there are experiences to share, but no one willing to listen. Towards the old age, others are counting your days faster, while you are still recounting your time.
What an Irony for this one person who came through this roller coaster ride of life, seeing the zenith and nadir, went through the peaks and troughs, maneuvered the ups and downs of life – balancing it like a balance sheet, but be considered a liability towards the end. A true LOSER!
So, while we want to go and read books, join programmes on Self Development, Transformation, Change Management so that we can become winners, it is important to realize that there is nothing to be a Loser, because life challenges us to come out as winners, but not consider yourself as Invincible one!
If you do a self effacing introspection of your life, Classification, Calibrations, Comparisons, Clarifications -- that's what we all end up doing.
Chronicles is a word that one tends to associate to perhaps movies or publications (newspapers) that try to present to you the evolution of an individual or a subject, event or just developments and analysis of the same. The objective of Chronicles in our title is also the same, where we are trying to arrive at a proposition that we develop a fear psychosis of being a loser and try to pose winners all our lives.
Loser is basically a perennial state in which we all exist, where we are trying to come out of a maze that we get ourselves into naturally, or by design, and are trying to fight our way out of it. Some succeed, some don’t, and hence the classification of winners and losers. Those who succeed start living in Ivory Tower, and start condescendingly looking down upon people who are down (losers), while those (losers) who are aspiring to reach the Ivory Tower, have an aspiration and are working hard towards achieving something. They are not plagued by complacency and adapt faster, rather than adopt a status.
This process of classification continues, and those who reach the Ivory Tower are select few, but there are many amongst those in the ground who start prophesying the demerits of the Ivory Tower, and how they are happy to be where they are.
As Children, we are protected, incubated, given happiness, made to feel winners all the time, so that we develop an illusion of life – Losers! As a Teenager, you want to break free of everything, but it is now that most of the shackles come in terms of disciplining, controlling – all in the name of shaping and guiding, but turning that person into a bigger rebel – Loser. The rebel matures to be an adult, and has many aspirations – but some get caught in the parental pressure of following the tradition, while a select few break free. Some succeed and get complacent and fall again, while those who did not succeed blame life – Losers.
Many aver that Marital Life is a gamble, and how that shapes up is itself a challenge, and again some succeed, while some feel they committed the gravest mistake of their life. Yet one can just pause and crib, as life goes on. Parenthood is another challenge, and some cope up with it, while some just journey through it like a responsibility. As one ages and decides to hang up one’s shoes, there are experiences to share, but no one willing to listen. Towards the old age, others are counting your days faster, while you are still recounting your time.
What an Irony for this one person who came through this roller coaster ride of life, seeing the zenith and nadir, went through the peaks and troughs, maneuvered the ups and downs of life – balancing it like a balance sheet, but be considered a liability towards the end. A true LOSER!
So, while we want to go and read books, join programmes on Self Development, Transformation, Change Management so that we can become winners, it is important to realize that there is nothing to be a Loser, because life challenges us to come out as winners, but not consider yourself as Invincible one!
If you do a self effacing introspection of your life, Classification, Calibrations, Comparisons, Clarifications -- that's what we all end up doing.
Saturday, September 4, 2010
ALL ABOUT FLAVOURED CRY- CRIB - CHIT-CHAT (GOSSIP)
The first sound of communication that you make in this world is a CRY. That sound makes so many of them happy. The father, the grand parents, the relatives who tend to be at the hospital and get the news that you have been born, and as soon as you arrived, you signaled your arrival with a CRY!
That Cry is your communication tool for the next six to eight months, till you learn to cry in tunes and communicate your moods through different tones of CRYING.
There is a CRY of despair, a CRY of Hunger, a CRY of pain, a CRY for complain, and a CRY of satisfaction that is usually a subsiding one. CRY in flavours – this must be something new, you might think. Well come to think of it, we use this basic tool and modify this in different ways in various parts of our life. This typically ends at the age of five, and may manifest itself on occasions, but very rarely. This phase is CRYAGE!
When you grow up, and try to CRY, people say – How can you CRY? You have now grown up, come on, wipe your tears. But you still want to CRY and you cannot, so you learn to CRIB! You CRIB about everything, and you discover that this is better than just a plain CRY, for you have moved a step higher in the ladder, and through CRIBBING, you can actually colour someone’s opinion of another person. You can colour OPINIONS! From a simple CRY communicator, you become a CRIB communicators, and this starts typically at five and continues as you age. This is CRIBBAGE!
As you mature, you learn a new art and that Is you cannot CRIB, so you GOSSIP, which is the most advanced state of CRYING, but you don’t shed tears, you revel in talking about someone, something, some act, some deed, and now SHAPE Opinions, Create Perceptions, so you become SCULPTIORS.
So it all started with a simple act of CRY – to herald your entry into this world, you then learn flavours of CRYING, you evolve to CRIB, and then mature to get on to CHIT-CHATTING (GOSSIP!)
No wonder there are tears and tears in GOSSIP serials that one gets to watch on television. For one who cries, we like to call that person a loser, because the tear is to show anguish over a situation that seems lost, and one is tyring to attract sympathy by shedding a tear.
Our submission – loose Chit-Chatting (Gossip) has increased exponentially in recent years, for that is the way we are being brought up, for that is what the media revels in presenting and we digest all that. Loose Chit-Chatting (GOSSIPING) is a fine art of losing.
Welcome to the LOSER society!
That Cry is your communication tool for the next six to eight months, till you learn to cry in tunes and communicate your moods through different tones of CRYING.
There is a CRY of despair, a CRY of Hunger, a CRY of pain, a CRY for complain, and a CRY of satisfaction that is usually a subsiding one. CRY in flavours – this must be something new, you might think. Well come to think of it, we use this basic tool and modify this in different ways in various parts of our life. This typically ends at the age of five, and may manifest itself on occasions, but very rarely. This phase is CRYAGE!
When you grow up, and try to CRY, people say – How can you CRY? You have now grown up, come on, wipe your tears. But you still want to CRY and you cannot, so you learn to CRIB! You CRIB about everything, and you discover that this is better than just a plain CRY, for you have moved a step higher in the ladder, and through CRIBBING, you can actually colour someone’s opinion of another person. You can colour OPINIONS! From a simple CRY communicator, you become a CRIB communicators, and this starts typically at five and continues as you age. This is CRIBBAGE!
As you mature, you learn a new art and that Is you cannot CRIB, so you GOSSIP, which is the most advanced state of CRYING, but you don’t shed tears, you revel in talking about someone, something, some act, some deed, and now SHAPE Opinions, Create Perceptions, so you become SCULPTIORS.
So it all started with a simple act of CRY – to herald your entry into this world, you then learn flavours of CRYING, you evolve to CRIB, and then mature to get on to CHIT-CHATTING (GOSSIP!)
No wonder there are tears and tears in GOSSIP serials that one gets to watch on television. For one who cries, we like to call that person a loser, because the tear is to show anguish over a situation that seems lost, and one is tyring to attract sympathy by shedding a tear.
Our submission – loose Chit-Chatting (Gossip) has increased exponentially in recent years, for that is the way we are being brought up, for that is what the media revels in presenting and we digest all that. Loose Chit-Chatting (GOSSIPING) is a fine art of losing.
Welcome to the LOSER society!
Friday, August 20, 2010
Corporate World, Business Humour and Losers
‘An economist is an expert who will know tomorrow why the things he predicted yesterday didn’t happen’.—The Peter Principle
Work, drudgery, routine, appraisals, promotions, jealousy, mistrust, suspicion, scheming, manipulation, trials and tribulations, See I told you before, I don’t care, you will do as I say because I am your boss, POLITICS! These are typical phrase. We think we have WON, because we have come out of a so called stifling atmosphere and walk into another place that initially seems to have an open atmosphere, that quickly emerges to be stifling. Some stick around and get rewarded for loyalty (sic) and not ability, and those who get awarded for ability have the luxury of not being loyal, for they will be in demand.
We love to blame our bosses or authorities or organizations for the culture, work atmosphere, paper work, systems, process, procedures and so on. Yet there is something called a hierarchy in organizations, despite the fact that most of them want to claim that they have a flat structure. All of us aspire to be at the top, and why not, because we have all been trained to think line leaders, like winners.
Three Books on Business Humour may make you think otherwise
Laurence Peter gave the management world a great phrase – Peter’s Principle! He authored a book too, in which he propounded that all employees tend to rise to their level of incompetence within an organisation, at which point it is too late to move them down or sideways.
Managers reach their level of incompetence by being promoted until they fail to do well in their current job. The message for employees unsuccessfully seeking promotion, then, is that they may be at their level of incompetence already. The final promotion, the one that takes each individual from a level of competence to a level of incompetence, should not, however, be taken as inevitable.
He has classified failure into two kinds: those who thought and never did, and those who did and never thought. Fortune knocks once, but misfortune will try again and again. There are two sorts of losers—the good loser, and the other one who can’t act. Our focus is obviously on the good loser, and not the other kind, and hence another justification for the title of the book itself.
Another one is about Parkinsons Law, that says Work expands to fill the time available for its completion. As a result, companies grow without thinking of how much they are producing. Even if growth in numbers doesn’t make them more money, companies grow and people become busier and busier. This comically exposes bureaucracy (bosses) for tortuous administration (systems) and the pointless shuffling of paper (documentation). Look at it closely and you will find that it is not difficult to detect incompetence in organisations; many people have cause to complain about it not only in their working lives but in their daily lives as well.
Scott Adams and his Dilbert cartoon focus on themes of failure, incompetence and fear of being caught failing or being incompetent. How positive?
Is success directly proportional to winning?, then everyone who is promoted is successful, and if so, he follows the peters principle, and rises to his own levels of incompetence (loser).
Work, drudgery, routine, appraisals, promotions, jealousy, mistrust, suspicion, scheming, manipulation, trials and tribulations, See I told you before, I don’t care, you will do as I say because I am your boss, POLITICS! These are typical phrase. We think we have WON, because we have come out of a so called stifling atmosphere and walk into another place that initially seems to have an open atmosphere, that quickly emerges to be stifling. Some stick around and get rewarded for loyalty (sic) and not ability, and those who get awarded for ability have the luxury of not being loyal, for they will be in demand.
We love to blame our bosses or authorities or organizations for the culture, work atmosphere, paper work, systems, process, procedures and so on. Yet there is something called a hierarchy in organizations, despite the fact that most of them want to claim that they have a flat structure. All of us aspire to be at the top, and why not, because we have all been trained to think line leaders, like winners.
Three Books on Business Humour may make you think otherwise
Laurence Peter gave the management world a great phrase – Peter’s Principle! He authored a book too, in which he propounded that all employees tend to rise to their level of incompetence within an organisation, at which point it is too late to move them down or sideways.
Managers reach their level of incompetence by being promoted until they fail to do well in their current job. The message for employees unsuccessfully seeking promotion, then, is that they may be at their level of incompetence already. The final promotion, the one that takes each individual from a level of competence to a level of incompetence, should not, however, be taken as inevitable.
He has classified failure into two kinds: those who thought and never did, and those who did and never thought. Fortune knocks once, but misfortune will try again and again. There are two sorts of losers—the good loser, and the other one who can’t act. Our focus is obviously on the good loser, and not the other kind, and hence another justification for the title of the book itself.
Another one is about Parkinsons Law, that says Work expands to fill the time available for its completion. As a result, companies grow without thinking of how much they are producing. Even if growth in numbers doesn’t make them more money, companies grow and people become busier and busier. This comically exposes bureaucracy (bosses) for tortuous administration (systems) and the pointless shuffling of paper (documentation). Look at it closely and you will find that it is not difficult to detect incompetence in organisations; many people have cause to complain about it not only in their working lives but in their daily lives as well.
Scott Adams and his Dilbert cartoon focus on themes of failure, incompetence and fear of being caught failing or being incompetent. How positive?
Is success directly proportional to winning?, then everyone who is promoted is successful, and if so, he follows the peters principle, and rises to his own levels of incompetence (loser).
Wednesday, August 18, 2010
Chess-Stress-Mess-Cess
Chess is the game of life, when you get into troubles (stress), you encounter problems, and your approach either compounds it, or solves it to lead you to another trouble that is going to emerge as a problem (mess). For all this you always pay a price (cess).
Two people sitting opposite one another and staring at some 16 pieces for hours together, as if a bout of paralysis has struck their tongue, meditating with open eyes, and the neck craned at almost 30 degrees, to determine who will emerge as the eventual winner. How boring is what one thinks, when viewing the game from outside. Be a part of it and play with an equal, and this can be akin to a game of stratagem.
You have five different pieces (Queen, Rook, Bishop, Horse, and Pawns) that can move in three different ways (Straight, diagonal, and crooked), fighting to protect the supremacy of a single piece – the King. In pure percentage terms 6.25% being served by 93.75%.
Digital Divide they say, Urban rural, or Call it the consuming class, or Purchasing Power or, Developed and Developing Nations. The minority few rule the majority many, and history is replete with examples that talk about revolutions or uprisings or movements that dethrone regimes, rulers, nations.
In `The Challenge-Response Theory of History’ developed by Arnold Toynbee’s research on: A Study of History, found that every civilization began as a small tribe or group of people that was suddenly faced with a challenge from the outside, usually another hostile group of people. In business, the equivalent is usually aggressive competition and unexpected reversals in the market place.
To respond effectively to this external threat, the leader had to immediately reorganize the tribe or group if it is to survive. If he makes the right decisions and takes the right actions, the tribe would rise to the challenge, defeat the enemy, and in the process, grow and become stronger. But in growing and becoming stronger, the tribe would trigger a confrontation with another, larger hostile force or tribe, thereby creating another challenge. The Chess-Stress-Mess-Cess syndrome
As long as the leader and the' tribe continued to rise to and overcome the inevitable challenges confronting them, they would continue to survive and grow. By continuing to grow through successfully rising to the unavoidable challenges, even a small tribe can eventually became a kingdom and then a large civilization, controlling vast lands, treasures, and people.
Much of what was discovered in the life cycle of those empires is applicable to the rise and fall of businesses, large and small, and to individuals. The lessons he discovered apply to your personal life as well.
For every King, there are 15 pieces, for without them the king is nowhere, and without that King there is no meaning to the 15 pieces. Now the perspective depends on what you want the king to be – A loser, because he is dependent for his security on 15 other pieces, or A winner, because without him, the fifteen pieces are just a piece of plastic or wood and there is no game.
Two people sitting opposite one another and staring at some 16 pieces for hours together, as if a bout of paralysis has struck their tongue, meditating with open eyes, and the neck craned at almost 30 degrees, to determine who will emerge as the eventual winner. How boring is what one thinks, when viewing the game from outside. Be a part of it and play with an equal, and this can be akin to a game of stratagem.
You have five different pieces (Queen, Rook, Bishop, Horse, and Pawns) that can move in three different ways (Straight, diagonal, and crooked), fighting to protect the supremacy of a single piece – the King. In pure percentage terms 6.25% being served by 93.75%.
Digital Divide they say, Urban rural, or Call it the consuming class, or Purchasing Power or, Developed and Developing Nations. The minority few rule the majority many, and history is replete with examples that talk about revolutions or uprisings or movements that dethrone regimes, rulers, nations.
In `The Challenge-Response Theory of History’ developed by Arnold Toynbee’s research on: A Study of History, found that every civilization began as a small tribe or group of people that was suddenly faced with a challenge from the outside, usually another hostile group of people. In business, the equivalent is usually aggressive competition and unexpected reversals in the market place.
To respond effectively to this external threat, the leader had to immediately reorganize the tribe or group if it is to survive. If he makes the right decisions and takes the right actions, the tribe would rise to the challenge, defeat the enemy, and in the process, grow and become stronger. But in growing and becoming stronger, the tribe would trigger a confrontation with another, larger hostile force or tribe, thereby creating another challenge. The Chess-Stress-Mess-Cess syndrome
As long as the leader and the' tribe continued to rise to and overcome the inevitable challenges confronting them, they would continue to survive and grow. By continuing to grow through successfully rising to the unavoidable challenges, even a small tribe can eventually became a kingdom and then a large civilization, controlling vast lands, treasures, and people.
Much of what was discovered in the life cycle of those empires is applicable to the rise and fall of businesses, large and small, and to individuals. The lessons he discovered apply to your personal life as well.
For every King, there are 15 pieces, for without them the king is nowhere, and without that King there is no meaning to the 15 pieces. Now the perspective depends on what you want the king to be – A loser, because he is dependent for his security on 15 other pieces, or A winner, because without him, the fifteen pieces are just a piece of plastic or wood and there is no game.
Monday, August 16, 2010
Vagabond or Bondages of Time!
Haven’t been there times when you just set off alone or with a set of friends to a destination that you perhaps did not know while starting on the journey. Maybe you joined the herd, or was instrumental in putting together this vagabond experience of being a backpacker.
Haven't you set off on a journey where everything was chance, and the objective was grabbing each chance that came your way – or people who obliged you. That Journey is called LIFE!
That wave of the thumb for a Blind Lift – that brief interaction with the driver, and convincing the person to drop you to the destination or somewhere en-route, and then seeking another mode to reach the destination. As you sit through a lorry loaded with luggage and see the cars whizzing past by you to almost the same destination that you are headed, you envy the other person’s comfort. You seek an accommodation that is rustic, and can make do with whatever is available and comes your way. How exciting, one thought, but when one reminisces – one tends to think, “How Childish?” or “How Silly?”
One grows up, and experiences holidays from a different perspective. You Plan, You vacillate, You make choices. You select the best. All of a sudden you have to drop some, because it doesn’t fit within your budget. Everything right from logistics, travel, stay has to be flawless. Anything that is not in keeping with the experience is seen as intrusive. You complain about the food, the facilities, the service, the people, the ambiance, the locations, the climate and whatever else you can justify as not being upto the mark.
Adapt they say, but we seldom want to. Adjust they say, but we want to be more upright, Be Accommodative they say, but we like to revel in snobbery.
Backpacker versus Planners (Itinerary followers), both have their pros and cons, but essentially represent approach to life. Backpackers are carefree, happy go lucky, optimisers (minimum spending, maximum pleasure), and time for them is near infinite, experience is also infinite. This perhaps represents the herd in real life too.
The planners have a choice to make – for time is finite and hence a premium. , and hence there is a schedule for everything. A designated time for each item to be quantified in a linear fashion. Clockwork precision is prime, and what has been promised has to be delivered.
Both these are two sides of the same coin, but love to scoff at each other for their whims and fancies. In life too, most of us are like backpackers, while few are planners. But let the battle continue in who what to brand the other a loser for their approach in life.
Haven't you set off on a journey where everything was chance, and the objective was grabbing each chance that came your way – or people who obliged you. That Journey is called LIFE!
That wave of the thumb for a Blind Lift – that brief interaction with the driver, and convincing the person to drop you to the destination or somewhere en-route, and then seeking another mode to reach the destination. As you sit through a lorry loaded with luggage and see the cars whizzing past by you to almost the same destination that you are headed, you envy the other person’s comfort. You seek an accommodation that is rustic, and can make do with whatever is available and comes your way. How exciting, one thought, but when one reminisces – one tends to think, “How Childish?” or “How Silly?”
One grows up, and experiences holidays from a different perspective. You Plan, You vacillate, You make choices. You select the best. All of a sudden you have to drop some, because it doesn’t fit within your budget. Everything right from logistics, travel, stay has to be flawless. Anything that is not in keeping with the experience is seen as intrusive. You complain about the food, the facilities, the service, the people, the ambiance, the locations, the climate and whatever else you can justify as not being upto the mark.
Adapt they say, but we seldom want to. Adjust they say, but we want to be more upright, Be Accommodative they say, but we like to revel in snobbery.
Backpacker versus Planners (Itinerary followers), both have their pros and cons, but essentially represent approach to life. Backpackers are carefree, happy go lucky, optimisers (minimum spending, maximum pleasure), and time for them is near infinite, experience is also infinite. This perhaps represents the herd in real life too.
The planners have a choice to make – for time is finite and hence a premium. , and hence there is a schedule for everything. A designated time for each item to be quantified in a linear fashion. Clockwork precision is prime, and what has been promised has to be delivered.
Both these are two sides of the same coin, but love to scoff at each other for their whims and fancies. In life too, most of us are like backpackers, while few are planners. But let the battle continue in who what to brand the other a loser for their approach in life.
Thursday, July 29, 2010
As You Sow so Your Reap!
Reminiscence is something that we all revel in. Be it with school friends, college friends, office colleagues, friends, relatives, and so on. One phase that we never reminisce is our childhood – but someone else reminisces that phase for us, and typically that tends to be the person who reared you or was a part of your innocence / adolescence days.
Just the other day two children were fighting over once chocolate – when there was a full packet on the side, but both were adamant that they wanted just that piece of chocolate. In the struggle the ensued, one child got the better of the other and claimed possession of the prized chocolate, and immediately commotion followed, because the other child (loser) cried so loudly that people around gathered.
They asked the crying child what the problem was and lo the child blurted out and immediately the solution found – the other child was reprimanded and this child given that prized chocolate. Now the child was smiling in glee and the other one was morose. This actually made me wonder as to who is the winner or loser?
I think of so many instances, where as an outsider, I would want to criticise the parent for not letting the children face reality and making them happy, just because one is seeking momentary peace and not get into doing anything major.
This is akin to the popular Wrestling shows on Television, wherein one person proves his ability and is declared as the winner, and the loser immediately retorts in the form of protests, technical complaints, seeking a rematch or asking to reverse the result. That childhood instinct in us never dies, for we want to prove that we won.
Maybe in childhood it was a parent or an elder who anointed you to cosmetic position of making you feel as a Winner. We are continually seeking someone like that all across our career who can make us feel as winner.
Are we responsible for rearing Winners and create a world of illusion right from childhood, and then panic when the same child as an adult has problems coping up with reality.
Guess, the proverb As we sow, so your reap actually goes live in our lives!
Just the other day two children were fighting over once chocolate – when there was a full packet on the side, but both were adamant that they wanted just that piece of chocolate. In the struggle the ensued, one child got the better of the other and claimed possession of the prized chocolate, and immediately commotion followed, because the other child (loser) cried so loudly that people around gathered.
They asked the crying child what the problem was and lo the child blurted out and immediately the solution found – the other child was reprimanded and this child given that prized chocolate. Now the child was smiling in glee and the other one was morose. This actually made me wonder as to who is the winner or loser?
I think of so many instances, where as an outsider, I would want to criticise the parent for not letting the children face reality and making them happy, just because one is seeking momentary peace and not get into doing anything major.
This is akin to the popular Wrestling shows on Television, wherein one person proves his ability and is declared as the winner, and the loser immediately retorts in the form of protests, technical complaints, seeking a rematch or asking to reverse the result. That childhood instinct in us never dies, for we want to prove that we won.
Maybe in childhood it was a parent or an elder who anointed you to cosmetic position of making you feel as a Winner. We are continually seeking someone like that all across our career who can make us feel as winner.
Are we responsible for rearing Winners and create a world of illusion right from childhood, and then panic when the same child as an adult has problems coping up with reality.
Guess, the proverb As we sow, so your reap actually goes live in our lives!
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